I looked at a lot of after-market solutions varying from inserts to glue-on shape kits like this
http://3ddesign-na.com/products/5-Se...91.php?brand=8 (picture attached). In the end, I actually got estimates from several local body shops about aftermarket parts and they all said that they could do the best that they could, but nothing is ever as good as OEM. OEM meant, to me, the M Sport bumper conversion. I could not have afforded this unless I'd found the bumper cover, in good condition, on eBay for $300. As you wrote, the car alone is a huge expense. To spend any more on it for cosmetic reasons would have really annoyed the one person in my life who can tell me what to do
Regards,
MWPos