[BDV]

re-paired the 4S this morning, than in the phone's Bluetooth settings for the connection with the car (tap blue arrow next to BMW xxxx) I turned on 'Show Notifications'. After a couple of seconds, I had 3 entries in Office (Contacts, Office today, Messages), and in Phone there is now also an additional Messages entry. It only shows the messages that come in from that moment on, not the unread emails I had in my Inbox before re-pairing it to the car...

Note 1: when a SMS came in on the phone, it didn't show a notification in the iDrive screen, however, it was there when I went to Messages.
Note 2: my F11 is from 05/2011, but with updated bluetooth software from the BMW USA website