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      08-07-2012, 03:44 PM   #89
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Oh yeah she's cute no question about that! But an 8?
How about a high 6 maybe 7?
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      08-07-2012, 04:53 PM   #90
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I know we all go though break ups, I have gone though of my share of girls that I somewhat loved but not entirely (I used to be very cynical about love). However how do deal with a girl you truly loved? I dated this girl for almost 3 years, not super long but I have known her for about 5. Typically we live 2 hours away form each other, at different colleges. But it has never caused issues, I am 26 Gradate school and she is 22 a Microbiology and cell since major, but I am at home for the summer 5 hours away. To preface this about a week ago my gf made all of the stuff on her Facebook private and deleted us from being in a relation ship. Yes getting annoyed over Facebook is very high schoolish but it really bothered me. I talked to her very calmly and told her it was bothering me and why she deleted us from being in a relationship and I felt as if she was hiding something, she got defensive and said no and that she would change it. Come yesterday I was talking to her and we started to talking and she said she needs more time to concentrate on school and would like to break up, however get back together in 6 moths once she graduates.

I told her I would rather work it out and stay together. She did not want to try and I said if we break up I donít want to see her for her to call or text me ever. I am very good friends with her parents, they invite me over for dinner and go on their boat all the time and call me randomly. I had to return some things to her dad and he said he is really said to see this happen and thought we would get married. He asked me to please talk to her, and promised me that she is not interested in anyone else and would really like us to work it out because we have something special between each other. But I cannot anything out if she is not interested in that. I have not talked to her in two days, but her dad keeps calling me asking me to go on the boat with them and help me do some things.

How have any of you dealt that with that one that got away, or do you think I am being harsh by not wanting to see or contact her at all. I loved this girl with all my heart and saved 25k to buy her to get engaged. I guess I am just so surprised by this, and to sad to lose a person that I so close to and we got along so well with and just truly loved.
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      08-07-2012, 05:18 PM   #91
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I always thought it is bad idea to hook up with ex'es? I can easily hook up with her, she told me when we broke up when she comes back I can hit it. I told her I would rather pass.


Thats a good idea!!



You're just hooking up, i didn't say hook up and fall back in love.. lol
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      08-07-2012, 05:30 PM   #92
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You're just hooking up, i didn't say hook up and fall back in love.. lol
Easier said than done. Leave her ass alone and move on with your life.
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      08-07-2012, 05:35 PM   #93
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Easier said than done. Leave her ass alone and move on with your life.

Meh, I could careless, I know that scenario isn't for everyone though, that's for sure.
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      08-07-2012, 06:01 PM   #94
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Oh yeah she's cute no question about that! But an 8?
How about a high 6 maybe 7?
solid 5 bro.. after a few beers.
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      08-07-2012, 06:05 PM   #95
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You're just hooking up, i didn't say hook up and fall back in love.. lol
Easier said than done. Leave her ass alone and move on with your life.
+1. its a trap for more depression you pansy.
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      08-07-2012, 07:58 PM   #96
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Why does it have to be a black guy? She's a science major. Why not Asian guy??
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Update, I told me ex to find a new apt and I am going to terminate the lease. In a way I told her in a nice way to GTFO.
Not sure how you were able to live with your ex for so long and deal with everything. I wouldn't be able to do it.
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      08-07-2012, 11:56 PM   #98
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Not sure how you were able to live with your ex for so long and deal with everything. I wouldn't be able to do it.
Dude I've been pulling my hair out for the past few months. It isnt that easy to just move out when you will have to pay two months rent as termination fee and loose your deposit. This apt/town home is 2745 a month. So FML
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      08-16-2012, 06:48 PM   #99
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A little update to this.

I talked to her in person, she told me she no longer has feelings for me. We had not seen each other for about a month since she had been busy at school, and I said since we had not seen each other that the reason you feel that way.
She had no desire to try and work things out and just said I have no feelings for you anymore.

She said she still wants to be friends and see each other ocasoinally, I told her I would rather not be friends with her. She said why not we where friends before and we started dating and have many mutual friends then maybe it can happen again. I told her no, I love you and be friends with someone I am in love with, you will just end up hurting me more.
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      08-16-2012, 07:02 PM   #100
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time to move on brother..take that money and go on a vacation to one of the islands
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      08-16-2012, 08:29 PM   #101
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She looks too much like that actor... I think he was in Bueller. Found the name, Jeffrey Jones.
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      08-16-2012, 09:24 PM   #102
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How come no one has requested pics of the chick yet lol
I'll feed the troll. you can tell she is bad news from this picture....


DSC_5609 by RedBarron009, on Flickr
I'm no expert, but I know a hooker when I see one... And THAT my friend, is a hooker.
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      08-16-2012, 10:15 PM   #103
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Sorry to hear it, man, but you're making the right choice by not being friends with her. Staying friends won't help you get over her. Time to pick up a new hobby or what not and move on with your life.

Oh...and whatever you decide to do, just don't end up in this situation:
http://www.zpost.com/forums/showthread.php?t=730977
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      08-16-2012, 10:34 PM   #104
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I'm no expert, but I know a hooker when I see one... And THAT my friend, is a hooker.
Yes she was a very expensive hooker, and took a lot of my time. At least hookers don't break your heart, ha.

This is the text message she sent me tonight, and I am not going to respond to it.

"Barron I'm sorry but I just can't do this now. You're right I am going into my last semester and I just need to focus on that and just live the college experience for the little bit I can (since I will be mainly having to study) my feelings for you right now are just as friends and I'm sorry it's become that but I'm just not ready to move forward from that. I just need time and I understand If you can't supply that time but until I'm done with school nothing is going to be able to become more than friends. I hope everything works out for you this semester as well and would love to hear about it but understand if you can't do that. "
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Yes she was a very expensive hooker, and took a lot of my time. At least hookers don't break your heart, ha.

This is the text message she sent me tonight, and I am not going to respond to it.

"Barron I'm sorry but I just can't do this now. You're right I am going into my last semester and I just need to focus on that and just live the college experience for the little bit I can (since I will be mainly having to study) my feelings for you right now are just as friends and I'm sorry it's become that but I'm just not ready to move forward from that. I just need time and I understand If you can't supply that time but until I'm done with school nothing is going to be able to become more than friends. I hope everything works out for you this semester as well and would love to hear about it but understand if you can't do that. "
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let her go. enjoy your life. someone new will come when you least expect it and all will be good..
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Yes she was a very expensive hooker, and took a lot of my time. At least hookers don't break your heart, ha.

This is the text message she sent me tonight, and I am not going to respond to it.

"Barron I'm sorry but I just can't do this now. You're right I am going into my last semester and I just need to focus on that and just live the college experience for the little bit I can (since I will be mainly having to study) my feelings for you right now are just as friends and I'm sorry it's become that but I'm just not ready to move forward from that. I just need time and I understand If you can't supply that time but until I'm done with school nothing is going to be able to become more than friends. I hope everything works out for you this semester as well and would love to hear about it but understand if you can't do that. "
other guys..


let her go. enjoy your life. someone new will come when you least expect it and all will be good..
^+1

Agreed, man. Just tell her, "Okay, hope everything works out! See you around." Easier said then done to move on but honestly, there are many more fishes in the sea. She's in her prime age to party and to make it worst...still in college living the life.

Like everyone one else has said, the best fuel to her fire is seeing you do better than her and you genuinely not caring for her anymore. Good look brotha
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      08-17-2012, 01:23 AM   #107
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I told her no, I love you and be friends with someone I am in love with, you will just end up hurting me more.
Bad move telling her you still love her. This lets her know she still has influence/power over you. No one who loves you would say/do what she has to you. I know it's hard but you've got to move past her.
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Yup, I expected this when you said she started deleting or hiding things on Facebook. She didn't want someone else to know about you.
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Yup, I expected this when you said she started deleting or hiding things on Facebook. She didn't want someone else to know about you.
Woman are so bad at hiding things... its hilarious...
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