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Originally Posted by swcrow
This great advice and I appreciate you addressing it....very good to know and I'll make sure I relay for her next steps. I agree with you and doubt it was a legal restraining order, so documentation and re-notification is in order. Based on what he's said to others, this guy is definitely hyper-fixated. I've half a mind to confront him, but it's not my daughter and I know that would be the wrong COA
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Any time! That’s what this thread is all about.
If possible, tell your daughter’s roommate to check with the
witnesses to see if they’d be willing to provide written statements (..
email is fine; the time stamps will be crucial to establish timelines). That way, if needed, she already has a paper trail of sorts.
You confronting…..
correction…..addressing him isn’t necessarily a bad thing (..
how you word it matters 
). Merely saying to him, “
Hey! It has been brought to my attention that you’ve been engaged in behavior that is making both my daughter and her roommate uncomfortable. As a father, that does not sit well with me and presents a problem that needs to be addressed. School personnel and the police department have already been informed and they have contacted you about the aforementioned behavior. My daughter, and by extension, her roommate, deserve to experience college without the discomfort caused by your behavior. I would appreciate it if you would stop creating issues. If this persists, we will have to get authorities involved - again - and escalate the legal process.”
Worded in that manner, it is direct without being threatening; it’s an appeal. That is how I would address him if it were me. There is no expectation of privacy in public, so feel free to videotape the encounter; notification is not a requirement. If he chooses to ignore your appeal, strike hard and fast within the confines of the law. Sometimes having a man get involved is enough. If you want to add a little
urgency to the corrective action, show up wearing a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu t-shirt (..
even if you don’t roll), providing the impression you’re a tested individual. At the very least he’ll
think you can handle business if you need to. #psychologicalstrategy