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      12-11-2018, 08:25 AM   #2571
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I'm confused as it GETS! My gift for her was gna be so awesome and a surprise!

I've never bought a Christmas gift for someone...EVER, even my MOM(that's just how we live).

I always thought life was to be lived all alone. Maybe...I mean MAYBE!

Even if I thought I was gay for so long...could I have finally met someone that could care about me too?! Idgaf about sexuality...just Love!
Ok, slow down. How long have you known her? I swear you were falling for some guy just a couple weeks ago. I feel like you should clarify your relationship before you spend a ton of money on her for Xmas. And of course you are going to meet people who care about you. Maybe that's just why you're so excited? She cares about you... but is she flirting with you?
I thought I was liking some dude a few weeks ago...as I always do. Ol girl met dude and convinced me that it was just a fluke. He was lame anyway! I like her a LOT better! She treats me better than any dude I've known!

They all just throw me away but she's like fighting for my attention! I'm not ugly but I feel HIDEOUS and have had surgery to help correct what I feel are my shortcomings but she adores me as I am!!

She even feels my recent weight gain is awesome as opposed to my pre-surgery weight of 40lbs lighter. 5 11 200lbs as opposed to my pre-surgery 5 11 and 160.

I've known her for 6 yrs but we're becoming closer and FAST! She's more beautiful than I could ever imagine...like out of my league imo. I've had hundreds of girls try to get with me but have only been confounded by this one...
Ok, if you are not seeing a therapist now, then you should be. You feel hideous and have had cosmetic surgery but clearly it hasn't helped your self-esteem. To me it sounds like you're falling for this girl because she is a nice human and is treating you like a friend. Friends care about eachother. They do stuff for eachother and are supportive and compliment eachother.
All good, I'm as just as fucked up aa the next guy. I'll keep ya updated
Exactly!

And just as "the next guy" seeing a therapist (a psychologist or a psychiatrist, not a witch "counsellor") is what we do.
I do not know anyone who has not been in therapy. Including myself.

It's like meeting someone who never had a fever.

You're stigmatizing therapy, as I'm reading it. Therapy is all about having someone help YOU find the answers that lie within YOU. They help with guiding YOU ask the questions YOU know the answers. You talk to yourself and figure out why things are the way they are. It's great.

You hold the key to the discoveries of yourself. Sometimes we don't find these answers on our own. And the lack of knowledge can be harmful to us and our relationships.

If I'm right and you're stigmatizing therapy, I need to give you a smack and say "I thought you were open minded". If not, why the reluctance? You said it yourself, and it shows, you lack the answers to help you normalize these feelings.
I've been in therapy many times, as recent as maybe 6-8 months ago. Not downing it or stigmatizing it at all I just don't think it applies in this situation. I'm doing the same thing as everyone else which is exploring life. The world ain't nothing but a big place for us to go out and fuk up in it...
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