[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I have a date tonight with one of them! Everyone on Hinge and Bumble are on hold until I see if I like this guy or not lol



I’m so nervous

You'll be fine.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

First date I've ever been on wearing pants and also long sleeves It's going to be in the 50's tonight. I've never not worn a dress or a pencil skirt on a first date. I'm getting to the age where I'd rather be comfortable than cold Showing my age now.


Heading out!

You look amazing!

If he acts stupid, he's a complete idiot of epic proportions! Good luck!!

[aliiin]

I see why you get all the matches now, looking good!

Good luck!

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Sara504

See on Hinge alone I’ve got 17 matches with conversations and 9 more likes waiting for me to view their profile. On Bumble I’ve got 50+ matches waiting on me and 12 active conversations, was 13 but one deleted me since I couldn’t make time...

It’s just too much for me to reply to everyone everyday and work full time, and be a mom, and go to the gym, and be a horse owner, and go out with my girlfriends... whew.

So you’re here thinking I’m ignoring you, when I’m really trying not to overwhelm myself and delete everyone all at once. That would be a lose lose situation for you and me.

OK, this gives some perspective!

No response or super slow response (days/weeks) would have me thinking that I'm not #1 choice or close to it and I'd move on. Potentially a loss for both sides...

But this is very much hypothetical anyhow; met my current partner on Tinder. She matched me and messaged straight away

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara504

See on Hinge alone I’ve got 17 matches with conversations and 9 more likes waiting for me to view their profile. On Bumble I’ve got 50+ matches waiting on me and 12 active conversations, was 13 but one deleted me since I couldn’t make time...

It’s just too much for me to reply to everyone everyday and work full time, and be a mom, and go to the gym, and be a horse owner, and go out with my girlfriends... whew.

So you’re here thinking I’m ignoring you, when I’m really trying not to overwhelm myself and delete everyone all at once. That would be a lose lose situation for you and me.

As far as I see, this only backs up my statement that it's not worth me making the effort at all.

You have many matches, and you're only conversing with a few - most likely those who are photogenic and come across well (especially Bumble, where you have to message first). You pick and choose who you allocate your time to based on their looks in their pictures, and the eloquence of their messages.

And I should clarify, whilst I say "you", I'm applying this to women in general - not just you personally.

Unless I underwent major cosmetic surgery that I'm not even sure is possible, I will not be photogenic. And I'm not a smooth talker either. I'm a shy introvert, conversations with strangers are very difficult until I start to learn their true passions and interests. I hate small talk with a passion, but it's necessary to get to know someone.

So when it comes to spending your time to reply to me, I'm pretty much last resort - you have nobody better looking or more eloquent to talk to, so I'm it. Which pretty much means I won't hear from you. Ever. And that's if we matched in the first place, which we wouldn't.

I have a grand total of 5 matches over 2 apps. One went to Florida in November, said she'd be in touch when she got back mid December. One has made no effort to make conversation since January - I asked her a lot about herself, she answered - when I stop asking, she stops talking. Don't think she ever once asked me a question about anything. And the remaining 3 I sent an initial message to, and have not heard a word in over 3 months.

Should I keep waiting until they find themselves so bored they reduce themselves to me, or just cut them off now and unmatch?

Therein lies the difference for males and females in dating apps, and that's why I cannot be bothered any more. If I am ever to meet someone, it will be in person the old fashioned way, because then at least I know if I speak words to your face and you do not respond, you're not worth speaking to.

[aliiin]

Sara must be having a good night if she didn't come back in here and make a trip report yet

[Lady Jane]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Heading out!

♥ Looking good girl! ♥

[Buug959]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Had a great date last evening, attending a gala for LEOs receiving various awards and medals. My escort was the same pilot officer that accompanied me at the Ball a few weeks ago. A professional photog. was on hand as we arrived at the venue.

Since it was last minute, I didn't have time to go to the hair dresser so I just wrapped my hair in a French bun. At least this time, I don't look like a pixie.

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Looking good.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Had a great date last evening, attending a gala for LEOs receiving various awards and medals. My escort was the same pilot officer that accompanied me at the Ball a few weeks ago. A professional photog. was on hand as we arrived at the venue.

Since it was last minute, I didn't have time to go to the hair dresser so I just wrapped my hair in a French bun. At least this time, I don't look like a pixie.

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Looking Good!!

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by aliiin

Hm, nice good luck. Do you like the match platform?

People can't keep convos going naturally, like why bother if I took the time to write a thoughtful response and you just respond with one word answers...

It's been endless swiping left for me recently.

It's not a bad platform. I look at it as vetting without the crap of going to bars. It's efficient.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

As far as I see, this only backs up my statement that it's not worth me making the effort at all.

You have many matches, and you're only conversing with a few - most likely those who are photogenic and come across well (especially Bumble, where you have to message first). You pick and choose who you allocate your time to based on their looks in their pictures, and the eloquence of their messages.

And I should clarify, whilst I say "you", I'm applying this to women in general - not just you personally.

Unless I underwent major cosmetic surgery that I'm not even sure is possible, I will not be photogenic. And I'm not a smooth talker either. I'm a shy introvert, conversations with strangers are very difficult until I start to learn their true passions and interests. I hate small talk with a passion, but it's necessary to get to know someone.

So when it comes to spending your time to reply to me, I'm pretty much last resort - you have nobody better looking or more eloquent to talk to, so I'm it. Which pretty much means I won't hear from you. Ever. And that's if we matched in the first place, which we wouldn't.

I have a grand total of 5 matches over 2 apps. One went to Florida in November, said she'd be in touch when she got back mid December. One has made no effort to make conversation since January - I asked her a lot about herself, she answered - when I stop asking, she stops talking. Don't think she ever once asked me a question about anything. And the remaining 3 I sent an initial message to, and have not heard a word in over 3 months.

Should I keep waiting until they find themselves so bored they reduce themselves to me, or just cut them off now and unmatch?

Therein lies the difference for males and females in dating apps, and that's why I cannot be bothered any more. If I am ever to meet someone, it will be in person the old fashioned way, because then at least I know if I speak words to your face and you do not respond, you're not worth speaking to.

Stop speaking so negative about yourself!

Change your mindset and just keep at it. I’m hot shit. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but that just means they clearly have bad taste. Think of yourself in that way.

Do you have any photos of you in sunglasses, a hat, or with fish in your pictures. If you do, change those and I guarantee you'll get more matches. Also, what does your bio say about you? Guys who write stupid shit in their profile, even if they're hot AF, I will swipe left on.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by aliiin

Sara must be having a good night if she didn't come back in here and make a trip report yet

Both dates went really well.

[Tambohamilton]

Wait, both??

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

Wait, both??

"Ladies is pimps too, go and brush your shoulders off."

Jay-Z, circa 2003.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

So...

Made a connection on Match about a week ago. She is highly educated, 5'-4", 117#, 38 years old and lives about 3.5 hours away. She's from South Louisiana and Creole like me so when we finally spoke earlier this week, the first thing we did was the entire genealogy discussion to make certain we weren't related. It may seem funny but I actually met someone that was a cousin and we had to break off our conversation.

We have spoken for the past 4 nights and it's been very comfortable and easy. We are planning on meeting in two weeks to see how everything goes.

I will keep everyone posted.

Quoting myself to keep the line of thought going.

We video chatted for the first time tonight. She is absolutely gorgeous and has a smile that could melt your heart in a nanosecond.

We spoke for about an hour and laughed so much that we both cried a bit. She has a 17 year old daughter and partial custody of a 2 year old nephew. We set our first date in two weeks. It is formalized and we are both looking forward to the meet-up!!

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

We set our fist date in two weeks. It is formalized and we are both looking forward to the meet-up!!

Curious minds wish to know - this from the intentions of the heart or a simple typo?

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Curious minds wish to know - this from the intentions of the heart or a simple typo?

Typo!

Good catch!

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Curious minds wish to know - this from the intentions of the heart or a simple typo?

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

We set our fist date in two weeks. It is formalized and we are both looking forward to the meet-up!!

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Curious minds wish to know - this from the intentions of the heart or a simple typo?

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Typo!

Good catch!

Mmm hmmm. Yup.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

"Ladies is pimps too, go and brush your shoulders off."

Jay-Z, circa 2003.

Not disputing that! But she'd only mentioned one, I think? We need details!

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

Not disputing that! But she'd only mentioned one, I think? We need details!

Saturday night he asked if he could take me to brunch in the morning. What am I going to say, no? Lol. I thought it was a bit soon, but I went to brunch with him anyways.

We’ll see. He’s very nice to me, although why do guys feel the need to be so macho towards others when going out?

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Sara504

why do guys feel the need to be so macho towards others when going out?

It's what we DO, especially for the ones who are rearing the children. How else will others know you are taken????