[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Show us that women aren't really attracted to men just because they are assholes.

Many are.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Many are.

Most are. It takes a strong-willed/minded woman to resist the urge of the asshole. It's almost as if they are hardwired to be attracted to this mentality. I've watched it happen my entire life. Mother, sister, ex's, friends, etc.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Most are.... I've watched it happen my entire life. Mother, sister, ex's, friends, etc.

Same.

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

WOW...quite the wide brush.

We're just calling a spade a spade. It's unfortunate, but as a whole very true. The phrase "Nice guys finish last" came from somewhere, after all.

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

Do you come from a dysfunctional family? ( I'm asking purely out of mental health concerns)

Define dysfunctional.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

WOW...quite the wide brush. I must be quite unique then. Do you come from a dysfunctional family? ( I'm asking purely out of mental health concerns)

Why yes, the biggest brush I can find. Do I come from a dysfunctional family? Why yes, yes I do. Physically abusive father that shot himself during Christmas and I haven't seen or spoke to my mother but maybe 5 times total in the past 26 years. Considering my background, I feel that I am pretty astute when it comes to reading peoples personalities. As for my mental health, you can ask my therapist, but for those who know the story, the impression that I left on her......well, let's just say that my mental health isn't the first thing that crosses her mind when my name is mentioned.

I also feel like those that think they have their shit together should re-evaluate. I just call shit the way that I observe it. How else am I to form opinions?

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Many are.

It's the confidence they are attracted to, not the douche aspect of it. Assholes just happen to usually be confident.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

It's the confidence they are attracted to, not the douche aspect of it. Assholes just happen to usually be confident.

I have to disagree with this....to an extent. I can't speak for everyone, I can only speak for myself. I am one of "these guys." Confident, but not cocky. There is something to be said about being confident, but being respectful of others.....I think it's called being a gentleman. Assholes are not gentlemen. Plenty of confident men out there that don't demonstrate toxic qualities.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

Spoken like someone with genuine intelligence! You think it's easy and anyone could do it, but I'd be willing to bet that it's not. And even if it is easy, you are the one that did it successfully amongst many others who didn't.

Have pride in what you've done!

Thanks - I am proud of my system - too proud in some ways. I see it as an extension of me. I speak of it in the first person as in "when this happens I do..." meaning my system does. So when numpty juniors screw it up, I also take it personally. It's stressful.

To me it's no different to Gordon Ramsey whipping up dinner for you. To us, it's amazing what he does with the colors and textures and flavors, and to him it's just what he does. There's no magic or secret to it - he's just extremely skilled at doing it. Not that I am comparing myself to Gordon Ramsey, but I see the system as just "what I do" and I didn't come up with any magic or secret techniques to do it. There's a few tricky bits that took a bit to work out, but I am sure given time anyone (any programmer) could have worked it out.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

It's the confidence they are attracted to, not the douche aspect of it. Assholes just happen to usually be confident.

Disagree. That type of behavior is typical of someone who is compensating for insecurity. True confidence doesn't require assholery.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Disagree. That type of behavior is typical of someone who is compensating for insecurity. True confidence doesn't require assholery.

Yes, but arrogance can often be mistaken for confidence.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Yes, but arrogance can often be mistaken for confidence.

Agree 100%.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by dinonz

9 posts you quoted pretty much said "red flag" or "run"... and you say it was "out of line".

You're telling me I should follow everyone's advice. Where was your "hell yeah everyone - I'll kick him to the curb"?

I think you're going to see him again right?

Actually, you have that wrong. And MKSixer can back me up on that with text messages. Editing out the rest as it was not appropriate. I’m in a bitchy mood, I apologize.

So, are you going to listen to us now?

[Sara]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

I thought the same. Prove us wrong Sara. Show us that women aren't really attracted to men just because they are assholes. This looks like a perfect opportunity for a toxic relationship. "Everything was great until he punched the waiter in the face, for not offering water, on our first date."

I cut it off yesterday. Hadn't seen him since that second date on Sunday.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I cut it off yesterday. Hadn't seen him since that second date on Sunday.

How is it going, otherwise?

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Actually, you have that wrong. And MKSixer can back me up on that with text messages. Editing out the rest as it was not appropriate. I’m in a bitchy mood, I apologize.

So, are you going to listen to us now?

She is correct, dinonz. We've been texting about it.

[Tambohamilton]

So, you guys are texting.......

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I cut it off yesterday. Hadn't seen him since that second date on Sunday.

Good on you. Well done.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

The Black Panties. A dating anecdote.



Anna had lost her husband almost four years ago.

Her daughter was constantly calling her and urging her to get back into the world.

Finally, Anna said she'd go out, but didn't know anyone.

Her daughter immediately replied, "Mom I have someone for you to meet."

Well, it was an immediate hit.

They took to one another and after dating for six weeks,

he asked her to join him for a weekend in Vermont ..

Their first night there, she undressed as he did,

there she stood nude, except for a pair of

black lacy panties; he was in his birthday suit.

Looking her over, he asked, "Why the black panties?"

She replied: "My breasts you can fondle, my body is yours to explore, but down there I am still mourning."

He knew he was not getting lucky that night.

The following night was the same--she stood there wearing the black panties,

and he was in his birthday suit--but now he was wearing a black condom .

She looked at him and asked: "What's with the black condom?"

He replied,

"I Want to offer my deepest condolences."

[Sara]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

How is it going, otherwise?

FB has "exams"

Surgeon is busy cutting people open, like their lives can't be put on hold for a 4 hour date.


No one else that I'm talking to right now and both of them are on hold ATM. Always subject to change if I come across a new profile that I like.

Is it just me or do you get offended when you swipe right and it isn't an instant match?

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

So, you guys are texting.......

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[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Sara504

FB has "exams"

Surgeon is busy cutting people open, like their lives can't be put on hold for a 4 hour date.

Exams? Is he 21 and in college?

[Sara]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Exams? Is he 21 and in college?

34 and acting career didnt work out so now last year of law school.

[JP10]

Originally Posted by Sara504

34 and acting career didnt work out so now last year of law school.

I can almost smell the debt from here - KIDDING, hard to joke with y'all anymore, feel like I'm going to be skinned alive lol. Solid career path